A Writing Voice exercise
You wouldn’t use your most professional, formal voice when speaking to a six-year-old, would you? Or your grandmother? (I hope not!)
We automatically shift our speaking voice based on our relationship with the listener.
We should make a similar shift when writing. We choose our words based on the imagined relationship with the reader. That simple choice affects how the reader perceives the “voice” of the piece.
When writers forget about the reader altogether, the writing voice can seem boring, self-indulgent, or out-of-touch. (We’ve all experienced reading something like that, right?)
If you want to tweak your writing voice, reconsider your relationship with the reader.
Explore the extremes
The easiest way to identify your desired relationship might be looking at its opposite. Which of these extremes seems right?
- Expert/all-knowing vs. companionable/unassuming
- Formal vs. casual
- Skeptical vs. trusting
For example, this post offers advice. If I were to adopt the position of an expert in relation to you, I might write this:
I’m going to tell you the best way to work on your writing voice. This is what you do:
Or, I could honor your experience and position myself more as your companion. That might read like this:
Here’s an exercise I’ve found helpful in my own writing practice—maybe you’ll like it as well.
Which approach do you prefer? There’s no right answer. I often land between those extremes in my writing. I assume that you have experience writing, but would appreciate guidance and suggestions. If you’re still reading, then it seems like we’ve got the right relationship.
The exercise
This month, I invite you to experiment with assuming the “wrong” relationship for the situation. Here are two quick options:
- Write a note asking for a favor from someone you admire and respect but do not know personally. Make it informal and intimate, as if you were best friends. For example, if you’re an author, write to Stephen King asking for an endorsement, in a flip and informal voice. (Note: don’t send it!)
- Write a formal, distant note turning down an invitation from a friend. (Definitely do not send this one!)
Notice the choices you make to be intimate or distant. Pay attention to what it feels like to write outside your comfort zone.
This exercise helps you home in on your assumed relationship with the reader. Does it tell you anything about your default writing styles?
The ongoing practice
When reading this month, notice the relationship that you sense the writer establishing with you. Do they respect your opinions or time? In fiction, is the narrator omniscient? Do they address you as the reader directly? How does it land with you?
When writing, be explicit about your intentions. For example, “I’m writing as the reader’s more experienced guide,” or “I’m trying to establish trust (or familiarity).”
More along this line
This practice is based on the tenth chapter of The Writer’s Voice (a workbook outlining a twelve-week course.) You can find variation of this exercise in a post from August 2023: Fancy or Folksy.
If you’d like to hear this one in my speaking voice, watch the YouTube video.
